The art of listening



Did you hear that?  Maybe not, if you weren't listening that is.  Are you a good listener or are you the type that likes to do all the talking?  The art of listening is a very special one; it will serve you well in many different ways throughout life.  Take a Veterinarian for example, many do not listen.  But the good ones who know that owners know all about their dogs, listen.  As a dog trainer, it is extremely important for me to listen.  There are things that canine guardians will tell me that can assist me in my work.  Being a good listener, a really good listener will also offer you information that is unsaid.  Something that an owner says or doesn't say can offer a plethora of insight into a situation.

Many people who are in some sort of canine business, be it a trainer, photographer, store owner, dog food manufacturer, accessory designer or what have you, need to be good listeners.  Do you know what your clients want?  Have you taken the time to really listen?  I don't mean just look like you are listening; really listen and hear what they are saying? 

Listening is an art.  Along with watching our dogs we need to listen to them.  With each being an individual; they all have something very different to say.  Our dogs do actually make sounds that are important; do you hear them, are you listening?  Dogs communicate via body language but also lots and lots of sounds.  They make sounds so low and quiet that if you aren't really listening, you'll miss.  I love to listen to the sounds of my dogs; from the happy, frustrated, anxious and everything in between, our dogs say a lot. 

When you speak, do you listen to what is said back to you?  That reaction which is returned can often help you to alter what you say next.  But people who don't listen well, don't understand this.  Words just continue to spew out of their mouth with no regard to what the other person thinks or has to say about anything.  Have you ever considered just sitting back and not speaking?  It is amazing what you hear when you set your mind to listening. 

In the world of communication, listening is a far more integral part than speaking.  If you aren't listening then much of the communications will be lost on you.  Yes we all have something to say; but what you say will have more impact if you are listening to what others have to say.  Your communications can deliver so much more if you have listened to those who will be listening to you. 

Are you a good listener? 

A new walk


Looking good.


Yesterday morning I pondered on where to take Luke for his little saunter.  I knew that our main drive street was closed due to a marathon that was going on so we couldn't go to several of our normal spots.  I thought of where I use to take Jessie and Tilley when they were 14 and 15; just before we moved East.  The parking lot at a school near by us.  It's not just a parking lot; it is surrounded by trees and green space, not a lot but enough to walk around on.  The added bonus is that it is entirely fenced except for a couple of in and out spots and there are squirrels.  I'd forgotten about the squirrels until we were pulling in; that unmistakable shrieking made me smile and I knew that it would make Luke happy.  
 At almost 14 years old now; he can't walk too far and I worry about anyone hassling him.  Heaven forbid we should run into a dog like the one that attacked Elsa; let's just say that it would not be pretty.  As our dogs age, it becomes more and more important for them to enjoy life, a safe life that is.  My Momma Grizzle bear kicks into overdrive and life's little pleasures become more important.  So taking him to an area that is new to him, fenced in and has squirrels is primo.  

No sooner were we out of the car when the shrieking began.  Luke's entire body tightened, his ears perked and he stood frozen, listening.  Something in that shrieking sound stirred the primal dog in him; it's been a long time since a squirrel enticed him into a chase.  He stood for a long time (photo above); taking in the warning sounds of the squirrel.  Stalking squirrels was one of Luke's all time favorite things; we use to make a special trip to the harbor just for that very reason. 

We headed over to the source where he sniffed around.  The squirrels had run for cover and were now under a building but continued their screaming.  Luke and I wandered the full perimeter of the lot while listening to the sounds of the squirrels.  With new scents all around; the sound of shrieking squirrels and trees to mark, he was one happy camper.  We weren't there long before the foot dragging started so we made our way back to the car.  We'll be back, screaming squirrels are good for the old soul.  :)

Seeing a nice change in the old guy.



I am really seeing a difference in my old man.  For those of you who do not know Luke, he will be 14 years young in August. Since the addition of smelt into Luke and Elsa's diet, I like what I see.  This is truly the first time that I can actually see the difference.  I have noticed something different, a spring that was once gone has now returned.  A glimmer in his eye and a general overall lift.  As someone who is constantly aware of infinitesimal behavior, it is huge.  Every step, turn of the head or hop onto the couch can mean something when it is different, slower or strained.  What I'm seeing is ease.

Food is what makes us and our dogs tick.  You are what you eat as they say; the same goes for our dogs.  What goes in will result in how our dogs feel and act.  As far as nutrition is concerned, I do the best that I can for my dogs.  I try to feed a real food diet to them as much as possible; I am constantly researching nutrition and try to learn what I can.  The problem with most of today's dog food diets is that it is overly processed food; taking all the nutrients out of the product.  That and the fact that many of the foods start out with low grade quality ingredients. 

I am a fan of whole foods so the idea of giving my guys a little fish each day appealed to me.  Now that I am seeing a big difference in Luke, I'm sold.  There is so much information out there on what we should and should not feed our dogs; it can be mind boggling to say the least.  You will get information from every direction possible.  Big dog food companies will sell you stuff in the shape of fish, chicken and veggies; telling you that it contains all of those things.  But how about just feeding fish, chicken and veggies in their real form?  Processing damages nutrients.

I am not telling anyone what they should or should not feed their dogs.  What I do is share what I like and learn, take it or leave it.  Since the addition of these dehydrated smelt from Bahia-Blue; we have noticed a marked improvement with Luke.  As far as I'm concerned that proof is in the pudding.  I am not a fan of vitamins in pill form; I'd much rather eat and feed my dogs vitamins in whole food form.  The less processing the better when it comes to nutrition. 

A bit of a problem routine




I felt the nudge on my left arm and reached down to feel who it was.  It is the spot where both Luke and Elsa go to talk to me when I am on my computer.  I was writing but Elsa had other plans as she continued to nudge.  I rub her head and applied an ample amount of kisses hoping that it would suffice, nope.  She stood staring, trying very hard to drill her message into my head.  I got it, I knew what she wanted but it's becoming a bit of a problem routine.  For some dogs like Miss Elsa, steadfast routine can become a problem.  Do something the same for a couple of days in a row and your sunk.  So Elsa thinks that around 4:00 pm that I stop working and go out to play.  It is a good time to do her ball tossing as it is usually cooling off; and it gives her a good amount of time to cool down before eating her dinner, BUT. 

I don't like problem routines.  Nothing should be so cast in stone that you cannot function until that activity is performed.   Structure is good, routine, not always.  Some dogs do well with routine but when it starts to become a problem routine; when the dog starts running the show, it needs to change.  Switch it up, after all we run the show right?  (grinning)  I love giving Elsa what she wants but it has to be when I say, not when she bugs me so much that I cave.  I enjoy flexibility in our day; I do not want the ball telling me what and when I have to do something.

It is true, Elsa loves her ball; she loves most balls but her XL orange squeaky Kong tennis ball is her absolute favorite.  It sits on the shelf in the yard and there it stays until I say so.  Today that ball will move; find a new place to live while not being chased or carried around by Elsa.  Then again in a few days more it will have to find another place to live.  Our "ball" time is also going to change; perhaps we will skip today and do something else, maybe work on the skateboard.  But it is changing, I don't like a problem routine.  Tomorrow we will do some retrieving with another toy, perhaps the ever favorite green football thing that Penny loves so much. 

Many dogs do great with routine; it can offer them stability in life, help them get through their day.  Then there are others who need their routine constantly undone.  A routine can put a dog like Elsa in overdrive; always anxious while awaiting the next routine moment.  So then it must be switched up; throw a wrench into the routine.  Routine, schmoutine; who needs it? 

Dogs who are constantly demanding, often have too much routine in their life.  Of course like I said already, some are fine with routine; they are all individuals remember.  Know your dog, know yourself and build your life together accordingly.  For Elsa and I, we need a freestyle type day to day. 

Fleas



Fleas, it's almost that time of year again.  I hate fleas, mind you I don't hate them as much as I hate ticks; don't even get me started on ticks.  Fleas are a pain and they can go from a few to infestation quickly; so being vigilant at this time of year is essential.  There are lots of chemical answers for fleas; but how safe are they to put onto and into our dogs?  In my opinion they are not, they simply are not safe in any way shape or form.  Do you need to use them?  Not if  you stay on top of the problem.  But if you don't you may be forced to use them if you get an infestation.

I have had an infestation of fleas, it is not fun.  Since then I am ever alert of the little black speck monsters.  Fleas are everywhere; you can pick them up just about anywhere.  So if you happen to find a flea on your dog; don't bother trying to figure out where it came from.   Address the problem where it lies, on your dog, floor, bedding and yard.  Yep, it's a full on attack when it comes to fleas. 

So what can you do other than use chemicals to keep those little suckers away?  In my opinion there is no one easy solution; fleas must be dealt with by a whole regime.  In the summer months or flea season I bathe the dogs more often.  If I happen to see flea, I will do a full body search and hopefully find just that one.  If there are more than one, in the shower they go.  Fleas are easily killed by regular shampoo suds.  Apply soap around the rear are and ears first and lather well; giving the fleas no where to run and hide.  Then suds up your pooch and leave it for approximately 5 min.  If there are fleas you will see them come to the surface of the suds.  They will drown and you wash them down the drain. 

Dogs Naturally magazine - Non-toxic flea and tick control

But that's not all, you have to vacuum, wash bedding and deal with the outside.  The above link is a recent good article that Dogs Naturally put out on non toxic flea and tick control.  Last year when we had a few fleas, I went to Home Depot and bought a couple of flea traps.
 
 They actually work and at this time of year I will have them around in different rooms overnight.  They have a bulb in them that is warm, which mimics a living being to a flea; so they hop on or in and cannot get out.  It works, and it also lets you know what you are dealing with.  Last year I only caught two which was a great sign that there was not an infestation in the making.   You can also make your own flea trap by using a candle/light and a bowl of sudsy water.  Just google flea trap and you will find lots of ideas. 

You must vacuum a lot.  If you hate vacuuming, I'm sorry; but it is one of the best ways to deal with fleas.  If you are pretty sure that you have fleas in the carpet or other flooring; make sure to throw the bag out or empty the vacuum each time you vacuum.  It is important to get the fleas completely out of the house.  Wash your dogs bedding and where they sleep often.  I have a white sheet on top of Luke and Elsa's bed which lets me see if there are any flea issues starting. 

Finding fleas can be tough but if you really know where to look, you'll see them.  They like to hang out at the base of a dog's tail.  Typically at the top of the tail you will find pepper like flecks which is the droppings from a flea.  If you find those then you can be sure that your dog has fleas.  If they are getting bad you can flip your dog over and see them running around.  They are very hard to catch as they run for their life but you can get them.  If you do grab them, place them in a bowl with sudsy water to drown. 

This is a great article I found by Paul Wheaton.  Fleas, die, die, die. 

If you get an infestation you must deal with your yard as well.  Nematodes are a good direction to go; I will be purchasing some for my yard just in case.  Also sprinkle diatomaceous earth all around to kill those pesky suckers.  I keep a shaker of it handy to sprinkle hard to reach places and the baseboards around any dog beds. 

Fleas are a drag; more so if they become an infestation but if you keep on top of them they won't be.  Do your best to keep things under control so that you are not tempted to poison your dog. 





 

Not intended for human consumption




Glorious, breakfast in bed; could it get any better?  Well.....  We had meatloaf for dinner last night; not just any meatloaf, we had smokey, cheesey, turkey meatloaf, a favorite.  Sliced and fried up, it makes a wonderful breakfast.  That is if it is indeed the smokey, cheesey kind and not the dog's meatloaf that was right beside ours in the refrigerator.  Yep, I was brought a plate of Luke and Elsa's meatloaf this morning.   It was very early and without my glasses on I took a bite.  I knew immediately that it was not my favorite cheesey meatloaf.  I panicked; what had I put in their meatloaf this time?  I like to have a variety of proteins packed into a meal for them so often add sardines, anchovies, liver etc.  With a big sigh of relief I realized that their meatloaf was pretty plain this time; I'd been in a big hurry so the additional 'yucky' stuff was added afterwards, at mealtime.  Their meatloaf is made in my kitchen, with my utensils in my pans.  I have no worry that it is completely edible for humans; my worry is that there have been something not to my liking in it  (something gross).  Ahhh, dodged a bullet, now all I could do was laugh. 

Of course this got me to thinking about what we feed our dogs.  How many products are sold for dogs to eat state 'not intended for human consumption' on them?  Far too many.  Food that is labeled 'not intended for human consumption' is just that, not fit for humans to eat.  So why then should we feed it to our dogs?  There are many things that dogs can eat that we may not want to.  But these foods labeled 'not fit for us' are lacking in nutrition; containing little or no nutritional value.  Basically waste as far as we humans are concerned but a cheap ingredient for dog food manufacturers.   

Article from Healthy Pets - Dr. Becker on Human Grade food.

I make food and cookies for my dogs all the time.  When I offer a dog cookie to family or friends to taste, they often recoil at the idea of it being for dogs.  Yes, I made the food specifically with the dogs in mind but with all the products found in my refrigerator or pantry.  Other than the occasional addition of gross things (as far as my palate is concerned) like gizzards, liver, sardines or dried fish; it is all ingredients that we can eat.  So when I make our turkey meatloaf; I often make a meatloaf for the dogs at the same time.  Our meatloaf is filled with seasoning and spices, theirs is not.  After tasting their meatloaf this morning, the only thing that I noticed was that it was a bit bland compared to my own. 

Not intended for human consumption can also mean that it is not safe for humans to eat due to how the product was handled.  Left out of refrigeration too long; and then cooked at such high temperatures that anything bad is killed.  But there in lies a huge problem again, it is now filler; adding no nutrition once so ever to the food you are now giving to your dog. 

Quality as far as feeding our dogs should mean "nutritional value."   It does not mean that we are feeding the most expensive cuts of meat or food prepared by a gourmet chef.  Nutrition means food that our dog's bodies can use to thrive on.  Like us, eat garbage and your body will feel like garbage. 

Not intended for human consumption - then I'm not feeding it to my dogs.  Bottom line. 

A travel day



Another long weekend is upon us.  Are you travelling this weekend?  Many people will be heading out to visit friends and family and bringing their dog along for the ride.  Being that summer is just around the corner, a time when we all travel somewhere or other; I have decided to do a three part travel blog.  Today will cover a day trip with your dog; things to do, not to do and what to be prepared for.

Lets first discuss the car ride itself.  Does your dog get car sick?  If so, then you have work to do before the full day of travel arrives.  Most car sick dogs can be completely rehabilitated with just a bit of work.  Creating a positive association to the car can be all that is needed.   Most dogs get worse because they start to associate the car itself with the horrible feeling.  Many start drooling before they even get into the car; which is a clear sign of negative association.  Here is a past blog to help you work through the negative association and turn it into a positive one.

Next, how does your dog behave in the car?  If they leap around like a maniac or try to climb onto your lap while you are drive then a crate will be the best and safest way for them to travel.  Dogs need to learn to behave and be still when travelling.  If you don't want to crate your dog during travel then you need to train them to stay where you put them.  A dog who is constantly trying to get up front is a danger to you and themselves. 

Preparation is one of the most important factors when traveling with your dog.  If your dog has had free access to the whole car and is accustom to going where they please; then slapping a harness on them and strapping them in could cause a big problem.  Harnesses are great for traveling with your dog if they are use to them.  Many dogs freak out and struggle when strapped in which can cause dangerous situations.  So train them to wear a harness and be comfortable and calm while doing it. 

What should you bring along for a day trip?  Water, bowl, food, snacks/treats, toys, blanket/bed, harness/collar and 2 leashes.  I always have extra leashes in my car for those 'incase' moments.  Be prepared.  What if you get to where you are going and your dog must remain leashed?  Having a bit of extra length can save the day.  Not all places have water so make sure to have that available.  Also bring your dogs food and make sure that others are not feeding your dog who knows what all day.  A blanket or bed can give your dog a familiar place to lay their head.  There may not be a comfy spot to lay down so you need to bring that with you.  Don't forget any daily medications needed.  You  never know when you'll be held up somewhere overnight so make sure that you have any prescriptions needed.  I always have Benadryl with me  because of Elsa's allergic reaction to bee stings. 

Above all, watch your dog.  Watch your dog around other people and other dogs.  Watch them closely for signs of stress and if they become stressed, get them out.  Even if you have the most well adjusted, social dog; things happen and you do not want to put your dog in a position where something bad might happen.  Keep your dog with you.  Don't expect more than your dog can handle and do not set them up for failure.  Know your dog and what they can handle.  If your day will be filled with lots of people in close quarters; make sure your dog is good with that before bringing them along. 

Have fun, be careful and watch your dog. 

Each is an individual




I always talk about how each dog is an individual.  They have their own way about them, quirky behaviors onto themselves, likes and dislikes.  They are their own dog.  So getting to know your dog as an individual and not just 'a dog' takes time and attention.   What one dog reacts to, another may not; each is very different indeed.  I really get to see differences when Penny comes over.  Although Luke and Elsa are very different from one another; Penny is that much more different than they are. 

A couple of weeks ago Penny came over for Mother's Day with her Mom.  We sat outside chatting; while Elsa and her charged around the yard.  I thought Luke would like a snack so I went inside and got out the bag of dried fish that both Luke and Elsa love.  I gave one to Luke, Elsa and then Penny.  Luke and Elsa chowed theirs down immediately; Penny dropped hers to the ground and starred at it.  Elsa hovered, waiting to scoop it up; so I told her to leave it.  We watched Penny, it looked like she was going to drop to the ground and roll on the fish.  But she didn't roll on it, she peed on it.  "What the heck" I said, wondering what this was about. 

I sat thinking...  My daughter and I disgusted this strange behavior.  We came to the conclusion that it smelled much like seaweed; something that Penny deals with several times a week.  In fact Penny's favorite thing in the world is seaweed; not to eat but to tear apart.  I truly believe that she though the fish was seaweed; as she picked it up and tore it to pieces.  Then claimed the little pile of broken fish as hers by peeing on it.  Very, very different from Elsa and Luke's chowing down of the little fish. 

Watching Penny and Elsa play; their differences are very obvious.  Elsa is a ball obsessed girl; the mere sight of a tennis ball sends her into an intense retrieve zone.  Penny, not so much.  Oh she loves the ball, but only if Elsa has it.  If it is thrown for Penny, she may or may not go get it.  If Elsa has the ball, that is where her interest lies.  Once she gets it from Elsa, she doesn't want it anymore.  Very, very different.  Penny could care a less about the whole retrieving thing. 

Penny is a much more instinctive type gal.  She often acts before thinking, much the same as Jessie did in her younger years.  She is mesmerized compulsively over glimmers of light.  No matter where it is, how high, low, wherever; she will be on it.   It is a common problem with many dogs.  She is definitely motion triggered.  Several months ago we sat outside with all three dogs.  The house behind ours sprinkler went on which sent water shooting through our back fence.  As it moved from one side to the other Penny shot into action.  She flew through the garden fence and to the source of the water shooting between the pieces of our bamboo fence.  It took a lot to get a hold of her and we had to move her indoors.  Something we then had to watch for.  Dogs like this need a great deal of supervision.

Even though it is wonderful to see and acknowledge differences; they are still very much the same in general.  They enjoy each others company, no matter their differences.  It is a good thing that Penny isn't ball obsessed; it might not be okay with Elsa if someone wanted her ball as much as she does.  I can't imagine two dogs flying at the wall every time a glimmer goes by.  Luke is by far the most emotional; Penny is at the other end of the spectrum and Elsa is in the middle somewhere.  Difference is a great thing, it makes each special onto themselves.  As a whole they are all amazing.  But wouldn't it be boring if they were all the same?




Growing up-dog

Penny, don't get much cuter.


Aren't puppies amazing?  They are adorable, never met one that wasn't.  But puppies are a lot of work and as much as we love them; we often want them to grow up.  We long for a day when we no longer need to worry about our home or possessions any longer due to them being chewed up by the puppies that we love.  How long does it take to grow up?  When are they considered an adult and no longer a puppy anymore?  Every dog is an individual; so how long it takes to mature can vary drastically from one to another. 

My opinion on age of maturation is around 2 years.  Some will be less, while others may be much older before they mature.  I am speaking about behavior maturation, not physical; which is different for dogs as well but a topic for another blog.  Typically around the 18 month mark you can start to see some different behaviors.  Things like not so much patience with unruly puppies.  All of a sudden your puppy doesn't seem like such a puppy anymore; they are growing up. 

Many people call their dog to be a puppy for many years.  This is often the case due to excuses for bad behavior.  I see it often, the puppy card is played when their dog exhibits some undesirable behavior.  But we cannot play that card for long as they will grow up and become an adult that will be expected to behave accordingly.  There is a big difference between a puppy and a youthful adult.  Each stage of a canines life comes with it's own behavior expectation.  Using the puppy card when your dog is not a puppy is just failing to address an issue. 

They may bark more, seeming to become a bit territorial.  New behaviors can pop up like defiance; pushing or testing the waters as they mature.  Your puppy is becoming the dog that they are going to be.  That takes a lot of work and depending on their life experience to that point will factor on the final product.  But once they hit that age of maturity; it doesn't mean that they are done.  Life happens and they will continue to change; like us as they get older and live through new experiences. 

A big shift from puppy to adult can be seen in the student become teacher scenario.  Your puppy, the young and immature will learn from older dogs; but that soon changes as they hit the age of maturity.  All of a sudden they become the teacher who will guide and discipline the younger.  This can be a time of firsts; when you hear "he's never done that before" from owners.  Some dogs change a great deal from puppy to adult.  There are very few dogs who keep their puppy ways about them; the not a care in the world attitude of a puppy.  Our dogs rely on us to show them the way; the direction to take as they immerge into adulthood. 

We are all aging, even that adorable little puppy that you just brought home.  The one that you want to grow up right now; but once they do, you wish that they were still a puppy.  We are all going in the same direction; although our dogs get there faster than we do.  There is so much to pack into the puppy stage; so much to teach to those little sponge heads.  In a blink of an eye your little puppy will be a fully mature dog.  Are you ready? 

Approaching dogs



Really?  As we sat on the beach, trying to give Luke a small piece of what he loves; we were very rudely interrupted.  Before we got to the beach we had walked down the boardwalk and come upon a doodle who was very exuberantly saying hello as we passed by.  Not wanting Luke to give one of his senior "knock it off" lessons and getting hurt, we reined in and moved onto our destination, the beach.  Getting situated and comfy so that Luke could enjoy the beach without much energy loss; we spread out the beach towel and sat for a few.  Elsa immediately began to bark and wag like mad so I turned around to see what the deal was.  It was the doodle again and her owners were allowing her to charge down the hill to about a foot from us on her EXTENSION leash.  So much for our quiet time.  The owners laughed and had their camera out shooting their dog, Luke and Elsa. Obviously they thought that our dogs were also doodles.

I was not impressed; space people, a little space please.  Honestly, humans!!!  What part of our sitting quietly, minding our own business on the beach said "please allow your dog to come charging at us?"  Really. But that was not enough; down the hill came the owner, at the furthest of the other end of the extension leash.  She laughed as her dog bounded at us again and again.  Elsa was half happy excited and half protective over the very rude interaction.  The woman never asked if our dogs were friendly; never asked if her dog could come and say hi.  This is one of the biggest problems; people don't ask, so they go in blind.  Ask, ALWAYS ASK.



We were at the beach for Luke.  This specific beach was chosen because Luke would not have to walk too far but could still enjoy the beach, which he loves.  Elsa had already had a big run earlier in the morning with her Dad and although she loves the beach as much as Luke, it was a Luke trip.  Quiet, short and all about the man.  Not every dog wants to interact with others; just like every person you see may not want to interact.  Just allowing your dog to wander over to dogs to interact could be dangerous, is unwise and rude.  So as much as their dog seemed to be having fun; we were not their for their entertainment purpose.






On the other end of the spectrum of approaching dogs was a very nice Mom and little boy.  We were walking in the surf when I heard behind us "ask, you need to ask."  Hearing this I turned around to see an adorable little guy in his wet suit.  Mom was teaching him the rules of walking up to a dog (thank you great Mom.)  Both Luke and Elsa like little children who are respectful and this little guy was being taught the ropes.  Mom was hovering as she should and of course I had a very tight leash on both.  I moved in to allow the little boy to pet Elsa and stood close to the interaction.  Dogs and children are wonderful when you are extremely careful and watchful.  But you just never know what a child will do so you must be RIGHT there.  Elsa loves children, to her they are just small people, which of course they are.  But many dogs are frightened by children and want nothing to do with them.

When my dogs meet toddlers, they are literally face to face.  I am on top of the entire situation; watching the child's movements and paying close attention to my dogs reactions, via body language.  Too many people allow their children to run up to strange dogs without ever knowing if the dog is friendly.  The best thing that parents can do is to teach their children like this mother was doing.  Teaching respect helps to avoid running into a bad situation.  I love when children ask me "can I pet your dog?"  It makes me happy that they know to ask.

I really don't get when people don't ask before assuming that their dog can interact with yours.  Not only could the other dog be unfriendly but the owner of the other dog may want some peace and quiet.  Ask, don't assume and honestly, don't just go in blind.

Eye contact



This is a very common reaction when I am photographing dogs.  The moment when they realize that I am staring at them.  A moment that can go many different ways. 


Eye contact changes everything.  Space circle boundaries (which I wrote about yesterday) will expand if there is eye contact involved.  Eye contact is huge in the dog world, it speaks volumes.  Just last night I was in the kitchen and heard a sound out front.  I went into the living room and froze, listening.  When I did this Elsa got off the couch and watched.  I then looked at her which made her go into an immediate sit.  Seeing her reaction, I relaxed my body and bent down to have a snuggle.  She'd seen my serious frozen posture and was curious; but the eye contact told her I was very serious so she sat which is her first sign of submission. 



Many dogs are just not comfortable with human eye contact.  It is a natural thing for them to veer away; especially if they are the timid or fearful type.  That said, there are all kinds of different eye contact.  When I get a new puppy I make sure that they learn about human eye contact being a good thing.  But even now at almost 3 years old, Elsa is very aware of eye contact.  If I hold her face close and look into her eyes; I can feel that she gets uncomfortable, not hugely, but she prefers if I look just to the side of her. It is a very natural response; especially in a dog so highly aware of body language.

Most people greet dogs by bending over towards them and looking directly at them.  Even if a dog barks uncomfortably they will continue looking directly into their eyes asking "what's wrong?"  A couple of years ago we had this exact situation at our house.  Elsa was working the crowd as she does and stopped in her tracks when she saw a guy with a hat on.  He leaned over starring directly at her and reached out his arms.  This made matters much worse; she kept her eye on him for the remainder of the evening. 

Eye contact is far more powerful than most people realize.  A fearful dog will never approach if you look at them but turn your head and they will slowly come closer.  I use a lack of eye contact in most of my training and I never give it when I first meet a client dog.  I will glance around and use my peripheral vision; but keep direct eye contact for later when we get to know one another.  Eye contact is so subtle that we can be sending so many messages to our dogs when we don't even know we are.  t is the whole inferior human thing. 

That same German Shepherd puppy in the park the other day (I wrote about yesterday) was very sensitive to eye contact.  She would move in if Elsa and Hank were not looking at her but the minute that they did, she moved away.  Eye contact can just be too much to handle in so many different situations.  The laser beam eye contact warning is the first line of defense from a dog.  It is very clear and dogs "get it." 

Eye contact is powerful, use it with caution.  Being that each dog is an individual; you must learn how your dog reacts to it and how to use it appropriately.  It is an amazing tool for communicating with your dog.  I use it regularly when Elsa is moving in too much on my food.  Pushing or yelling does little to thwart a dog moving in on your food; but throw them a serious eye threat and they "get it," immediately.  They may not heed the warning, that all depends on your relationship and training that you have done. 

Humans just don't get dogs to the degree that our dogs get us.  They can read us like a book.  Us?  Not so much.  Take care where you stare, eye contact is a powerful tool. 



Space



Inspiration for a blog can come at any time; this one came at around 3:30 am this morning as I tried to turn over.  "Space, I need some space Elsa" I said, half asleep.  She was draped across my body; making it nearly impossible to turn over.  She doesn't mind all the struggling, and happily drifts back to sleep when I stop floundering.  Of course then I lay there awake thinking about dogs and space; writing this blog in my head.  Like us dogs are all different; so their individual need for personal space varies drastically.  I have a large personal space circle; that is if you are a stranger to me. I cannot stand people who breath down my neck while standing in line at a store.  It can cause me to do all sorts of oblivious and accidental backing up, bumping into and stepping on feet.  ;)  Of course if you are a friend or family that circle vanishes. 

Dogs are the same, some have huge personal space circles; while other have none. (Penny has no personal space circle.) Most dogs have circles that vary like us; depending on who is wanting to come in their circle factors in on how big the perimeter will be.  If you watch a dog closely, you can see their behavior change as someone enters into their personal space zone.  How that dog reacts to someone entering into their space will depend on temperament, socializing and life experience. 

Elsa met a German Shepherd puppy at the park the other day.  I was very cautious as we approached.  It was obvious that the dog was young but it also had it's hair up in defense mode.  We talked to the woman for a while and I watched Elsa's body language.  She was wagging like crazy; stopping every so often to assess the situation herself.   It was clear that Elsa read this dog perfectly.  The dog was displaying fear aggression; but still had a bit of puppy inquisitiveness as well.  I loosened the leash and allowed her to approach while I bent down and remained between the two.  They sniffed, Elsa wagged and the puppy relaxed a bit.  When the puppy, who was almost as tall as Elsa moved in too close, Elsa warned her.  Had the dog been just a goofy friendly puppy; Elsa would have probably allowed the very close proximity.  But this puppy was displaying unsettling behaviors.   

Dog space boundaries need to be respected.  Many dogs are quite comfortable walking in public as long as everyone stays out of their space.  Once a human or dog enters the space; things can change, so you need to know where your dog's space is and who is allowed in.  Some humans tend to be oblivious to space requirements in both other humans and dogs.  I don't know how many people come abruptly up to my dogs with their arms out in "I'm going to hug your dog" mode.  Although both Luke and Elsa are extremely friendly; they don't want strangers coming up hugging them, neither do I. 

Our dogs also display their pack space circles on a daily basis.  For Elsa there is no visible circle within the pack; she likes to be on top of her pack, both canine and human.  Luke must be with his pack with a little space.  Although if their is too much space he is not happy.  If we are all in the family room watching t.v., Elsa must be touching someone while Luke needs to be about 6-12" away.  If I move further than that, then he needs to move closer.  If I happen to sit in a chair where they cannot lay on or beside me; they will both take up the "dog at your feet" spot. 

Personal space, it is a complicated thing. 

Wordless Wednesday




The calm before the storm.  Elsa has no idea that Penny will arrive momentarily.



Luke is not happy about the turn of events. 




If she can just NOT do the Bulldozer routine.




Well hello.




It's all about the acquisition of the toy.




Tugging is great fun.




Placing on your opponents head is good too.




Wow, big girl teeth.





"What Grandma?"  "I'm not bothering Luke.""




Hahahahahaha, Penny's Mom trying to work out with Miss Inquisitive.  

Out of the ordinary.

 
Luke keeps a close eye on me while I keep a close eye on him. 


I was awake and aware that Luke was not in his bed.  I sat up to see him standing staring at the end of the bed.  I assumed he wanted outside.  Since he has gotten older, he can no longer let us know the way that he use to tell us when he needed out.  He use to leap on and off the bed until we got the message.  Now he stands in silence staring at the door; but last night he was staring at the bed, not the door.  I asked him what he wanted; expecting him to move to the door.  He didn't, he stood staring and wagging at me.  So I hopped out of bed and head towards the bedroom door.  He was so excited spinning and huffing at me that he tripped and fell.  He took a tumble at the top of the stairs because he was spinning and another once we got outside.  All he wanted was me and he was acting as though I'd just come home.  With his head turned to the side, his open mouth huffing; he was giving me a greeting, even though I hadn't been out.  Once back in our bedroom he just wanted on the bed; which at this age is a big no no.  He could easily tumble off should I fall asleep.  So I set up some pillows beneath my side of the bed and he happily settled in. 

What was going on with him?  This was very strange behavior for the middle of the night.  He hadn't needed out when we went into the yard, he just wanted me.  After speaking about it with my husband this morning; he thought that maybe he had a dream that I was gone.  Hmmmmm, I hadn't thought of that.  It would most definitely explain how he was acting.  If he'd needed something other than me, I would have been able to figure it out easily.  But it seemed that all he wanted was his Momma.  Why?  I don't know. 

Now this morning, he has been on the bed for a bit.  He is off now but wants me with him.  I will be keeping a very close eye on him today; something is up, whether it was a dream or not he is acting differently.  Different behavior should always be watched closely.  When you know your dogs, even the slightest thing can be noticeably different.  Even though Luke is very much my shadow dog; he isn't normally as worried about my whereabouts as he is this morning.  He has however become even more mushy and clingy as he has aged. 

One other thing to consider is the wind.  It is crazy windy out; the sort of wind where you can't believe how hard it is blowing.  With it comes many scents and unusual smells because the wind is coming from the East instead of our normal off shore breeze.  Both Luke and Elsa stood with their noses to the sky last night, sniffing.  Luke went out and barked for a bit as uncommon scents came into our yard.  Could it be that?  We'll see, the wind is with us until Thursday I believe. 

Grooming the dog who doesn't want to be groomed.



                                 So much grooming with a full coated poodle puppy and the beach.

With brush in hand you approach your dog; they in turn and head for the hills.  Another fight is about to begin as you embark on the grooming that must be done.  Does your dog hate grooming?  Many dogs do for many different reasons.  Some hate the pulling and tugging that goes on; others may not like the idea of being made to stay in one spot and then some just hate anything to do with the whole touch thing.  So what are you to do?  It has to be done. 

Elsa hates to be brushed; she doesn't mind nails, ears or trimming but pull out the brush and she makes herself scarce.  I believe it is due to the fact that she had such a huge coat when she was young.  Lots and lots of brushing and mats, oh those wonderfully unavoidable mats.  Many nights were spent watching t.v. and combing mats.  The big hair was short lived and we are both much happier about it.  I hate spending our time together working on mats when we could just be having fun; and she is much happier not being tugged on. 

If you have a dog that hates all or a particular part of the grooming regime then you have work to do.  Of course you cannot make them love it; but you can most definitely create a tolerable scenario.  Treats, yummy, yummy treats is the way to happy grooming.  That and a calm, relaxed and enjoyable environment in which the grooming is done.  By starting over, breaking it all down to very small pieces of enjoyable grooming you can then build a new feeling around grooming.  Take the yummiest treats that you can think of, steak, chicken, jerky, cheese and break it into lots of pieces.  The pieces can be very small, just enough for your dog to know that they are eating something great. 

If your dog is really bad about grooming then start with just having the brush or nail clippers in hand and treat.  Then work on clipping one nail or brushing only once and treat.  Stay calm, this is suppose to be enjoyable.  Keep that "zen" thought in your head while you approach your task of creating a positive experience.  One brush, one treat, another brush, another treat, you get the idea.  Only move onto more brushing between treats once you have success.  When your dog is relaxing, then you can build.  Baby steps is the only way to undo what is already engrained as a negative.  If the negative is all about nail clipping then just work on holding your dog's paw and treating.  Once they are okay with that, then move onto touching a nail with the clippers, treats.  It could take weeks or months to get to their.  That's okay, take the time, it is worth it. 

Force a groom with physical restraint and you are going to create a big dislike for the activity.  The more a dog fights, the more you hold on which causes more fight in a dog.  It is a vicious circle of dread.  You hate it, your dog hates it, it's a lose, lose. 

Elsa still gets treats throughout a groom, although very few.  Both Luke and Elsa get a treat after having their nails done, why not?   Knowing they will get a treat creates a happy aura around something that they do not enjoy.  It's a win, win and that's what we are striving for. 

 

A dog Mom



Penny and her wonderful Momma. 


That moment when:

-  you pull the bones out of the fridge.

-   you pick up the tennis ball.

-  you say "do you want to?"

-  you say "who's hungry?"

-  you spell the "hot" words.

-  you invite someone up on the bed.

-  you cut your steak in half.

-  you tuck them in at night.

-   you realize that you are bragging...again.

-  you buy a bigger bed.

-  you do what they want to do.

-  you search an establishment, always looking for the "dog friendly" sign.

-  you make special trips to the grocery store just for them.

-  you buy their favorite food.

-  you nurse them when they are sick.

That moment when you realize that you are a Dog Mom and proud of it.  Happy Mother's Day to all the amazing Dog Momma's that I know.  Have a fabulous day. 



You are what you eat.



You are what you eat and your dog is what they eat; what you feed them on a day to day basis.  Nutrition for dogs can be mind boggling to say the least.  Your Veterinarian will tell you one thing, the pet store owner another, friends something else and then there is the internet.  So much information to wade through; what is a person to do?   As far as I am concerned, you go real as much as possible.  So what does that mean?  It means real food.  The way that food was meant to be eaten.  Food that is the least processed as possible.  When food is processed it loses nutrition quality.  Real food is where it is at.

Variety is another important factor for me when feeding my dogs.  Feeding a variety of high quality foods is the best for our dogs.  The very old thought of just feeding one dog food and only that which we have all heard is not a good idea.  There are many people out there that proudly state "our dogs only ever get dog food, we do not feed people food."  Well, that is sad to hear and probably sprung from what their Veterinarian told them many years ago.  Not all Vets. think this way, many are realizing the benefits of a real food diet.  One very serious fallout from feeding only one food all the time is that the dog will most likely be easily upset.  Their digestive system is not capable of handling any sort of change in diet.  This digest upset only engrains the idea of not feeding anything else. 

When dogs eat a variety of food, they can eat a wide variety.  In the wild, wolves do not eat the same thing day in and day out.  No, they eat whatever they can.  Their daily diet may change drastically from day to day yet they are fine.  Do we eat the same thing every day of our life?  Nope.  I eat differently every day as do most people.  We have many options as far as what we eat; there are just as many for us to choose for our dogs.  My general rule of thumb as far as feeding processed dog food is that if there is a television advertisement for it, don't buy it.  If you can purchase it in a big box store, don't.  Research, research and research some more to find a quality dog food.  I choose real food over processed for my dogs.  I prefer canned over dry but keep dry on hand for when I'm in a pinch.

A dog will survive on low grade dog food; but they will thrive on a real diet.  I am a big believer in feeding the best that you can afford to feed.  If you want to feed kibble then buy the best that you can find.  I shop many different locations for specials on meat.  I have a deep freezer and fill it when I find a great deal.  I also buy things like BahiaBlue dehydrated Smelt as a treat and supplement to Luke and Elsa's diet.  They eat many different forms of animal protein and veggies.  I grow organic grass in a pot for them to much on and share much of my own meals with them.   I also have raw freeze dried Stella and Chewy patties to supplement their diet.  Lots and lots of different things. 

My goal when feeding my dogs is to do the best that I can.  Feeding the best does not mean spending a fortune on prime cuts of meat.  Dogs don't care if meat is tough, in fact tough is good for teeth.  If a food product says "not for human consumption" on it, should we really be feeding it to our dogs?  I can eat the food that I feed my dogs; of course I'm not into eating raw meat or sardines but if I wanted to eat it I could.

So, what's for breakfast this morning?




Friends


                                   A moment of quiet.  Lucy had been here for a while here.  Love how
                                   Elsa's turned back ears show that she is listening to me. 


                                                  Snack time, any takers?  I think so. 

 
Having friends over for a visit is always a good thing.

 
I could watch them play all day.


 
Lucy was much more interested in playing this time. 
 
 
Dog friends are the best kind.