It's not easy, how do you move on when you may have lost the love of your life? This was something that I dealt with after losing my Luke. Luke was my heart dog and he left a huge gaping hole in my heart when he left. Getting over a love like we had is never easy, not for anyone.
I lost Luke in January of 2015; so where am I now in the whole grieving process. I've been through it all and am out the other side. Oh, there are still days when I can't talk about him; it really depends on my mood and what the Luke topic is. It is hard to think that you can ever have that again with another; but I know it will happen, I will fall in love again. I am very ready to fall in love, as is Elsa. But how do you go from a mess; to being able to move on? Grief, you must grieve such a loss or you will never get through to the other side. Writing my book helped me immensely. Each re-read brought fewer and fewer tears. I can now read my book with only a few tears rolling down my face. No sobbing, no heartbreak, just memories.
The memories are what we need and when they come and bring joy instead of sadness; well then, you are almost there.
You have to go through it, there is no way around. Getting to the other side demands that you go through the middle of the sadness. Deal with it, cry, remember, cry and cry some more. You must mourn what you have lost, it is essential. There is no easy way to get to the other side and if you take the easy road; then you'll likely have to go through it later in life.
Going through the middle of it all was why I wrote my book. It made me deal with every heartbreaking emotion. Oh there was a lot of crying. Some days I couldn't think of moving on. How could I go through a day without him?
But here I am, with all of my amazing memories left. They bring smiles now; how can I not smile when I think of that big goof ball? I loved him, I will always love him. But now I only have memories and that my friend is a gift. One that we should cherish.
It's not easy, but you can get through it.