Moving on - after losing your canine

It's not easy, how do you move on when you may have lost the love of your life?  This was something that I dealt with after losing my Luke.  Luke was my heart dog and he left a huge gaping hole in my heart when he left.  Getting over a love like we had is never easy, not for anyone.  

Luke's goodbye

I lost Luke in January of 2015; so where am I now in the whole grieving process.  I've been through it all and am out the other side.  Oh, there are still days when I can't talk about him; it really depends on my mood and what the Luke topic is.  It is hard to think that you can ever have that again with another; but I know it will happen, I will fall in love again.  I am very ready to fall in love, as is Elsa. But how do you go from a mess; to being able to move on?  Grief, you must grieve such a loss or you will never get through to the other side.  Writing my book helped me immensely.  Each re-read brought fewer and fewer tears.  I can now read my book with only a few tears rolling down my face.  No sobbing, no heartbreak, just memories.  

The memories are what we need and when they come and bring joy instead of sadness; well then, you are almost there.  

You have to go through it, there is no way around.  Getting to the other side demands that you go through the middle of the sadness.  Deal with it, cry, remember, cry and cry some more.  You must mourn what you have lost, it is essential.  There is no easy way to get to the other side and if you take the easy road; then you'll likely have to go through it later in life.  

Going through the middle of it all was why I wrote my book.  It made me deal with every heartbreaking emotion.  Oh there was a lot of crying.  Some days I couldn't think of moving on.  How could I go through a day without him?  

But here I am, with all of my amazing memories left.  They bring smiles now; how can I not smile when I think of that big goof ball?  I loved him, I will always love him.  But now I only have memories and that my friend is a gift.  One that we should cherish.  

It's not easy, but you can get through it.   

My book

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Moving Through the Loss of Your Canine Companion

It is done, and all I can say is what a write.  It is a good thing that I don't actually write on paper because it would be completely ruined by the end of it all.  There have been many tears shed over this book; but it has helped me to heal immensely.  I hope that it can help those of you who may be going through a loss down the road, right now or in the past to heal just a little.  

The book covers everything from, knowing when, through the loss and grief and coming out the other side.  A special addition is at the end of the book with a few stories by others who have lost their dogs along with my own and after death experiences.

The book is available by clicking on the above image or it is also available on Amazon in print or ebook form just by typing in the title. 

I hope that you enjoy it.  It has been written from the heart, most definitely.  

Losing your canine companion

It's gone, off to the editor with a huge sigh of relief.  I've been working on a loss book; not just any loss but the loss of a canine companion.  It's been a rough write but healing at the same time.  As most of you know, we lost our Luke in January 2015 and with his loss came much sorrow and emptiness.  I took to writing and it has helped a great deal.  

A few weeks after our loss I sat in front of my computer and decided to write.  Writing is very healing for me and the more I wrote the better I felt.  Now a year and a half later I am moving on.  With each re-read came more tears; there have been a lot.  But with time passing and life unfolding; there have been less tears.  I cannot read the book without tears but the deep heart wrenching sorrow is now replaced with many smiles.   What a guy he was.  

All of my writing starts with a passion; so far it has all been about dogs.  Of course dogs are my passion.  This new book on canine loss was something that I needed to do for myself; but I hope that it helps those who read it to get through the process.  Each person deals with loss very individually; the course we take through the steps of loss may vary vastly but we all go through it.  

No one wants to face the idea of losing a canine.  As humans we tend to push it aside and pretend that it will never happen.  Sadly we will all face the loss of our canine at some point; confronting that fact first can help with the moment when it arises. 

If you are lucky, you will have one or more very old dogs to tend to in your lifetime.  Caring for my old dogs has been one of the greatest joys in my life.  But with that comes "quality of life" decisions which are inevitable.  

Life is journey.  We will all make our way through the loss of a canine in our own very personal way.  Dealing with it is essential; otherwise there will be no moving on.  Once you move on; you will store your dog and the memories in your heart to draw on when you need to.  They remain there forever.  Moving on means smiling when the memories floods back.  

I will keep you posted on the books availability.